The Blogger’s Book Fair begins today! This brilliant creation of Kayla Curry allows hundreds of writers the opportunity to introduce other writers to the reading public. It is my pleasure here to introduce you to the very erudite and talented Daniel Alexander and Adele Park.
In conjunction with The Book Blogger’s Fair, it is my pleasure to introduce you to the very talented Daniel Alexander. (Adele Park’s work follows.) Enjoy!
Tired of Your Children’s Bad Attitude:
Back Chatting, Fighting, Whining…?
Would you like to:
* gain the respect you deserve?
* reclaim your relationships with your children?
* build a happy, harmonious home, free from fighting?
* give your children the best start to life?
* protect your child?
About the Book
Communication and relationship experts say that communication should be a two-way street. For many years however, society adopted the attitude of “children are to be seen, not heard.” This has had a profound effect on our ability to build relationships today, often resulting in children who backchat, fight and whine. Sound familiar…?
To help you better understand your children you need to turn things around and look at life from their point of view. This helps you improve your understanding of their feelings, attitudes and thoughts, so you can give them the best start to life and create the happy, harmonious home you’ve always dreamed of.
Much research and professional input went into writing the latest breakthrough-parenting book Through the Crimson Mirror. Many interviews were conducted including those with psychologists, psychiatrists, teachers, children, parents, reformed drug addicts and alcoholics, people who work with children who have learning challenges such as ADHD and dyslexia, and many more.
Through the Crimson Mirror is unique. It shares all the lessons the author wishes he’d learned while growing up, wrapped in a story. This makes it easy to read and interesting for parents, young adults and book readers.
About the Author
Daniel Alexander was born in Durban, South Africa, in 1983. After a largely uninspired, uncreative and lonely youth, he graduated from college with a diploma in computer science and worked as a programmer. Programming left him un-stimulated, so after many years he left. The next few years turned out to be tempestuous. Traumatic events followed and inspired this book, which fulfills one of his goals and desires.
Life has changed now, and the author studies the mind and gives talks on parenting and related subjects. He has a deep passion for those in need and has formed relationships with wellness and addiction centers, family crisis mediators and other similar organizations. His passion now lies in helping people understand how their beliefs affect their lives and how often those beliefs start when they are young. His mission is to educate parents and make them aware of the impact they have on their children, so we can build a better tomorrow for all children.
What others are saying
“Daniel interviewed many educators, parents and medical professionals to get a balanced insight.” Pat Pughe-Parry of Living ADDventure.
“Whether you’re a parent or not, you’ll enjoy it and start thinking critically about the world around you. That’s something very few authors can achieve, so I have to congratulate Daniel Alexander on that. I give this book 4.5/5 stars.” Internet book reviewer, Carrie Slager. More reviews: http://daniel-alexander-book.blogspot.com/p/reviews.html.Computers have very quickly integrated themselves into our lives. We have to regularly update the software to make sure they run at their best.
Isn’t it time you learned something new about what’s most precious to you: your children?
Through the Crimson Mirror
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Does the traditional discipline model work?
In the current model, when a child is naughty, parents scream and shout, and often give hidings. We find a similar situation in the work place. When an employee makes a mistake, often bosses don’t allow them to apologize or share their side of the story; instead, they reprimand, warn, and then dismiss. Does this change the behavior?
I was watching some of Eddie Murphy’s early comedy. He does this bit where he’s talking about his mom: she would throw a shoe at him at the drop of a dime. She was bad with a shoe. She carried it around like a gun. By the time Eddie was 10 or 11, she was like Clint Eastwood with a shoe. If he messed up, his mother would walk into the room and… BAM! Shoe to the face!
Growing up, it seems Eddie’s house was very strict. Yet, for all those beatings, for all that violence, he made a living standing on stage saying, “F this; suck my that; stick my this up your that…” So did it change the behavior?
Originally, I wrote this article as one of my talks for Toastmasters. (For this who don’t know, Toastmasters is an international organization, with the goal of helping people learn to be better public speakers and leaders.) This article is adapted from one of my talks, which was inspired by a talk from another member the month before. We were rolling on the floor, as he regaled us with tales of his childhood and the various misdemeanors he and his siblings would commit. After each one, they received their scolding and beating. And guess what: they did it again… and again! So did it change the behavior? Who doesn’t have a childhood story similar to that…
The current model teaches children the very violent manor in which our society communicates. Often, people demand instead of asking. Some take, when they don’t get what they want. It teaches children that, “if you hit me, I must hit you harder.”
It is a very oppressive way of disciplining. We oppress children’s ability:
* to make mistakes,
* to grow and learn,
* to allow them to say sorry for things that often, many of us do or have done;
* most importantly, we oppress people’s ability to express themselves.
However, when society oppresses groups of people, eventually those groups rise up, and take back what is theirs. In doing so, much blood, and many tears are shed, countless lives are destroyed, and suffering is felt on an immeasurable scale.
Isn’t this similar to what happens in homes all over the world… A child makes a mistake, which ends up with parents and child screaming at one another:
* the violence burns through fists,
* hatred dissolves into each other’s minds, where it festers like cancer,
* grudges are held,
* resentments are built,
* and as we often are seeing, the family bond is withering away;
* and most importantly, the behavior rarely changes…
This is the result of the current model … and society calls it discipline.
I wrote a book about my experiences growing up called Through the Crimson Mirror. While writing, I interviewed a range of people: from teachers to physiologists, children to speech therapists, and reformed alcoholics. What I found is that alcoholics and others, who have what society perceives as anti-social disorders, act the way they do because of something deeper. Usually, it’s extreme-pain or a feeling of being alone or unloved.
So what do we often do, when we interact with these people? We tell them:
* you aren’t good enough,
* you aren’t worthy,
* you’re a bad person,
* you’re nothing more than an alcoholic…
To fix them, to make them feel less lonely, we cast them out… So what’s really causing them to continue drinking? I’m not saying there wasn’t an initial problem that was the catalyst for their behavior. Nor am I condoning the way they act. However, we validate what they do by perpetuating their ridicule.
Recently in South Africa, Para Olympian superstar Oscar Pistorious, shot and killed his girlfriend Reeva Steenkamp. The investigation is still pending, so we don’t know conclusively what happen on that night. Nevertheless, many people have mocked and vilified him. The media have slandered him. People throughout the world hate him now, with a burning passion! He’s pretty much been made a prisoner in his family’s home.
Following that, a few weeks ago, I heard on radio that he was spotted out drinking and partying. Really, people are surprised that now, our fallen hero, who we’ve turned out back on, has sought refuge in drinking to stop the demons in his mind…
So, what is the answer: in my opinion, its communication. Communication leads to understanding, and understanding leads to change. When someone acts out or does something that we perceive as naughty, there is usually a reason why. If no one communicates with them and attempts to dig deeper about why they did what they did, there is little chance for change. There is a reason for everything, and everything for a reason…
For human beings, there is something magical about expressing yourself. I’ll use the example of joining Toastmasters and learning to become a public speaker. Hundreds of thousands of people all over the world spend time writing speeches and preparing. We fight the nerves, the potential for embarrassment, for what? What do we get out of standing in front of a crowd and talking? We have the opportunity to have others listen to us. Behavior changes, when people feel heard.
Oppressive, torturous discipline has proved itself ineffective; let’s rather give people an opportunity to communicate and express themselves…
Furthermore, how we treat people such as Oscar and those with anti-social disorders continues to demonstrate how sometimes, it’s our solutions, which are causing so-called problems.
So, in the same vein, do we have to discipline children because they do naughty things; or do children do things that society perceives as naughty, because as a society, we are willing to psychologically and physically torture them, for making mistakes, experiencing life, and not doing things the way we expect them to…? Through the Crimson Mirror on Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00904HFTQ
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In conjunction with the Book Blogger’s Fair, it is my pleasure to introduce you to the very talented Adele Park. What I’d really like you to hear from this very entertaining author is her new audio book “Yikes,” the story of some very interesting characters and their experience blending marijuana and reality TV. Unfortunately, I can’t figure out how to load an mpg here, and the book is only available as a (very well-crafted) audio book. Fortunately, there is plenty of contact info for Adele below—as well as some other great information from her. Enjoy!
Yikes! Another Quirky Audio Book by Adele Park
About The Author:
Adele Park worked as a TV and radio reporter, news anchor and on-air personality for more than 20 years. In 2008, Park formed Straight to Audio Productions
LLC and opened a recording studio in St. George,
Utah. Park’s first audio book, WHEN RADIO AND
POLYGAMY COLLIDE . . . Jitters-A Quirky Little
Audio Book, received a 2011 Audie Award from the
Audio Publishers Association for Multi-Voiced Performance. Jitters-A Quirky Little Audio Book was also honored with a spot on Jimmy Fallon’s Do Not Read List.
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Publisher: Straight to Audio Productions
Release Date: September 22, 2013 Amazon | Audible
When marijuana enthusiast Blue McKenna suffers an apocalyptic case of writer’s block, reality TV seems like an easy way out. A conglomerate of kooky contestants invades the polygamist community of
Navel, Utah, to compete in a reality show called Yikes! Participants include Steven Finch, a loveable stoner who develops a conspiracy theory involving a rock band called the Rectal Surgeons, and Randall Smoot, a member of the Gay Mafia.
WHEN MARIJUANA AND REALITY TV COLLIDE . . . Yikes! Another Quirky Audio Book features a cast of 11 actors who portray the characters in funny, engaging narratives. This 10.5 hour MP3 audio book is available for sale at Audible.com and Amazon.com. For more information, please visit http://www.yikesaudiobook.com
Audio Excerpt: Available at our website – http://www.yikesaudiobook.com/Trailer – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PPotQyyPsuo&feature=g-upl
Straight to Audio Productions
315 W. Hilton Drive, Suite 4
St. George, UT 84770
Don’t Surrender the Fate of Your Books to Publishing Executives
Have you unconsciously surrendered the fate of your novel to the whimsical tastes of publishing executives? Do you think your book can’t move forward without the financial blessing of others? Agents and publishers can certainly boost our careers, but I’m not sure they can break them. In all likelihood, our destiny lies in our own hands. It took several years worth of groveling at the heels of those in the publishing industry for me to comprehend this.
Even though you’ve probably spent years visualizing the success of your book, how much time have you devoted to thinking about the specific things you want to achieve? Perhaps you have a vague fantasy involving money and fame. These things are definitely desirable, but chances are there’s more to it than that. The act of creation ignites something within us, even if we can’t put our finger on it. There’s a lot to be said for fully experiencing the moment we are in.
Many of us hold our own dreams hostage by assuming things have to play out in a specific manner. In my case, I wrongly believed the only way to turn my manuscript into an audio book was to first have it published in hard back. Under this scenario, I would have had to sell a barn full of books before anyone would ever consider producing it in audio form.
Once I understood I had control over my own dreams, I formed an LLC called Straight to Audio Productions and produced my first audio book. I recorded and edited an 8.5 hour project using nothing but a mic, a mixer and a laptop. Miraculously, I was able to get my project listed for sale as an mp3 download on Audible.com. After that, I built an actual studio and went to work recording Jitters-A Quirky Little Audio Book. That project went on to win a 2011 Audie from the Audio Publishers Association in the multi-voiced category.
If you are having trouble getting through to the top brass in the publishing industry, try to find the courage to publish your book anyway. E-books and desktop publishing companies make this process inexpensive and easy to do. Don’t miss the chance to live your art just because things aren’t happening exactly the way you had envisioned. Outcomes are over-rated anyway. The biggest thrills come from fully experiencing the projects you’re passionate about. Completing something you’ve been working on for a long time can be anti-climactic, so the trick is to enjoy the process. Whatever you do, try not to get attached to the outcome.
When you run out of ideas, wing it. I’ve met very few people who work in the audio book industry, so in my business I make everything up as I go. Sure, I’ve taken a few wrong turns, but it’s definitely been an interesting journey. This lack of an industry blueprint has left me free to dabble with different ways to tell a story. Unlike most audio books which have one person doing the voices for all the characters, my audio books feature full cast of actors who tell their stories directly to the listener. I’ve also taken the liberty of experimenting with different forms of narration. Since the lead character in Jitters is a radio shock jock, I thought it would be interesting to narrate the story through a series of newscasts. With Yikes! Another Quirky Audio Book, I used a series of narration pieces called “Examine Our Navel.” Like it or not, I probably couldn’t float this idea to any traditionalists in the audio book industry.
It might seem risky, but there are advantages to “going rogue.” For one thing, you don’t have to follow any rules. Don’t be afraid to explore the unknown. Some of the best stuff comes from impromptu moments.
I’m sure we would all love to spend a few days in the Gucci shoes of the publishing industry elite, but let’s not assume this group has it better than we do. Along with the perks comes more pressure. Rather than focusing on what our project lacks, perhaps our energy would best be spent being grateful for what we already have. Besides, there’s no telling where our books will end up – not knowing is half the fun!
Written by: Adele Park